Wanderlust Swingers - A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories

Playroom Etiquette, Grey Areas & A Hotwife Onboard the Bliss Cruise

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Lifestyle Stories
EP215 – Playroom Etiquette, Grey Areas & A Hotwife Onboard the Bliss Cruise
In this episode, we dive into a lifestyle topic that sparks massive debate: playroom etiquette and the “grey areas” that aren’t written in the rules.
We share a real experience from Fata Morgana (Netherlands) where another couple began having sex very close to us (around 20cm) in a small open playroom. No rules were broken, nobody touched anyone… but the vibe shifted fast, mainly due to proximity and intense watching.
That led to the real question:When something is technically allowed, can it still be socially tone-deaf?
We also share highlights from the Reddit discussion (yes, some people roasted us), unpack the difference between rules vs social awareness, and give practical advice for navigating open play spaces when everyone’s boundaries are different.
Plus: Cate’s upcoming Bliss Cruise hotwife adventure, and our latest attempt at making new local lifestyle friends (with very Dutch planning timelines).
In This Episode
- Playroom etiquette vs “grey area” social awareness
- Parallel play, proximity, and when it feels invasive
- Why eye contact can change the dynamic fast
- Reddit reactions: “technically allowed but socially tone-deaf” vs “open room means accept it”
- Newbie advice: you can’t control others, only your response
- Cate’s Bliss Cruise plans with Mallory (two hotwives on the loose)
- Unicorn/hotwife dynamics + messages on the Bliss app
- Seasickness tips wanted + the drink package debate
- Finding new swinger friends: Cate sent 13 local messages and is tracking replies
Join Cate on Bliss Cruise – April 2026
Cate will be sailing on the April 2026 Bliss Cruise, including the beach parties in Jamaica and Cozumel.
Book here to join Cate and receive exclusive cashback: https://wanderlustswingers.com/bliss-cruise-april-2026/
- $750 cashback for international guests
- $300 cashback for North American guests
Useful Links
Join us at a Swingers Event:https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/
Wanderlust Swingers Website:https://wanderlustswingers.com/
Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content:https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events:https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
Sponsors
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Swinger Cruises - Inside Bliss Cruise with CEO Russell Stephens

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Lifestyle Stories
EP214 – Swinger Cruises: Inside Bliss Cruise with CEO Russell Stephens
In this episode, we’re joined by Russell Stephens, CEO and part owner of Bliss Cruise, the world’s largest and most influential lifestyle cruise brand, for an unfiltered conversation about the past, present, and future of Bliss Cruise.
Russell shares how Bliss Cruise was acquired, why the ownership structure changed, and how decisions are actually made behind the scenes. We talk candidly about community concerns, guest privacy, pricing, drink packages, sponsorships, and the realities of working with major cruise lines while protecting a sex-positive lifestyle experience.
 
Join Cate on Bliss Cruise – April 2026
Cate will be sailing on the April 2026 Bliss Cruise, including the beach parties in Jamaica and Cozumel.
Book here to join Cate and receive exclusive cashback:https://wanderlustswingers.com/bliss-cruise-april-2026/
- $750 cashback for international guests
- $300 cashback for North American guests
 
We also dive deep into what most guests never see, the logistics, planning, staffing, and production required to transform a “vanilla” cruise ship into a full-scale lifestyle event with thousands of guests.
If you’ve ever wondered:
- Who actually owns Bliss Cruise and how decisions are made
- How a cruise ship is converted into a swinger cruise in under 24 hours
- Why drink packages cost what they do
- What happened with cameras, videography, and privacy concerns
- How Bliss balances legacy guests with modernizing the experience
- Whether West Coast Bliss cruises are ever coming
- What goes into playrooms, music programming, and themed cruises
 
In This Episode
- Why Bliss Cruise was acquired and what changed with new ownership
- Russell’s personal history in the lifestyle and why that matters
- How guest feedback and surveys directly shape future cruises
- Privacy, consent, videography, and lessons learned
- Drink packages, pricing realities, and why sneaking alcohol hurts the community
- Sponsorship decisions and why some partnerships won’t happen again
- Behind-the-scenes logistics: staffing, playrooms, AV, decor, and scheduling
- How Royal Caribbean crews actually feel about Bliss sailings
- What makes Bliss Cruise different from resorts, clubs, and land-based events
 
 
Useful Links 
Join us at a Swingers Event:https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/
Wanderlust Swingers Website:https://wanderlustswingers.com/
Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content:https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events:https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
 
Sponsors
Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD HeroGet 10% off, use code Libertinehttps://mybls.com/Libertine
Promescent – Sexual Wellness ProductsGet 15% off using code wanderlust26https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26
 
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Sexual Wellness, Performance Anxiety & Pleasure Products for Better Sex in the Swinger Lifestyle (Promescent CEO)

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Lifestyle Stories
EP213 – Sexual Wellness, Performance Anxiety & Pleasure Products for Better Sex in the Swinger Lifestyle (Promescent CEO)
Sex toys, delay sprays, arousal gels, performance anxiety, libido, orgasms, and why using sexual wellness products does not mean you’re “bad in bed.”
In this episode, we’re joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, one of the world’s most trusted sexual wellness brands, to talk about the real science, real psychology, and real-world use of pleasure products — especially in the swinger and non-monogamous lifestyle.
 
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We dive deep into premature ejaculation, the arousal gap, performance pressure, female pleasure, and why the best lovers in the world use tools.
We also explore the incredible backstory of Promescent, including clinical trials, urologists, turning down a $30M pharma buyout, and why Jeff was determined to keep these products available next to condoms, not behind a prescription counter.
If you’ve ever wondered:
- Is using a delay spray cheating?
- Is performance anxiety mental or physical?
- Do arousal gels actually work?
- What should be in a swinger’s hoe-on-the-go bag?
- How do you last longer with multiple partners?
 
In This Episode
- The biggest myths about sexual wellness products and what they really mean
- Why the best lovers in the world use performance and pleasure aids
- The real science behind premature ejaculation (and why it’s mostly physiological)
- The “arousal gap” and why most women need more time than most men
- Performance anxiety vs physical dysfunction — which is more common?
- The true story of turning down a $30M pharma acquisition
- How Promescent went from one product to 20,000+ retail stores (Target, Walgreens, CVS, etc.)
- Spray vs wipes: which works best and when to use each
- How long delay spray lasts and how to reapply in multi-partner scenarios
- What swingers should actually carry in their hoe-on-the-go bag
- Female pleasure, arousal gels, blood flow, and why warming/buzzing gels work
 
Useful Links from This Episode:
Join us at a Swingers Event:https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/
Wanderlust Swingers Website:https://wanderlustswingers.com/
Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content:https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events:https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
 
Sponsors
Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD HeroGet 10% off, use code Libertinehttps://mybls.com/Libertine
Premature Ejaculation Spray, Delay Wipes, Arousal Gels & Sexual Wellness Products with PromescentGet 15% off using code wanderlust26https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26
 
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HOTTAKES - The Hotwife Boom, Trend, Evoluation or Opportunism

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories
EP212 – Hot Takes: The Hotwife Boom – Trend, Evolution or Opportunism? (Bonus Episode)
Hotwife is everywhere right now, searches are rising, events are multiplying, creators are rebranding, and porn studios are showing up in lifestyle spaces looking for “talent.” So is this a genuine shift in the lifestyle… or is porn culture and trend chasing bleeding into swinging?
Our Hottakes bonus episode, we unpack what hotwifing actually is (and isn’t), why the label is suddenly trending, and whether separate play dynamics are becoming more normal at couples events, or if it’s mostly just branding and algorithms.
 
In this Episode:
What hotwifing means (and how it’s different from cuckolding and “just separate play”)
Why “hotwife” searches spiked in 2024–2025 (Google Trends nerd moment)
The rise of hotwife-specific events, hall passes, and separate-play meetups
Are we seeing more hotwifing in real life — or just more people using the label?
Porn studios entering lifestyle spaces (including a couples-only cruise sponsor)
Content ownership + why “signing talent releases” can follow you forever
Our 10-year hotwife journey and whether we’re “missing opportunities”
Why hunting hall-pass husbands at couples events makes zero sense (and feels messy)
The big question: authentic evolution… or opportunistic trend
 
Useful Links from this Episode:
Join us in 2026 at a Swingers Eventhttps://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/
Wanderlust Swingers Website:https://wanderlustswingers.com/
Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content:https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events:https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
 
Sponsors
Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD HeroGet 10% off, use code Libertinehttps://mybls.com/Libertine
Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner PromescentGet 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderlust26https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26
 
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Club Rejection, MFM Lessons & Lifestyle Drama at a Swingers Club

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories
EP211 – Club Rejection, MFM Lessons & Lifestyle Drama at a Swingers Club
What happens when you get rejected from a swingers club, have an MFM at home that doesn’t quite land, and then walk into one of the most chaotic club nights you’ve had in 10 years?
In this episode, we kick off 2026 by unpacking getting denied entry to a Belgium club, lessons from a recent MFM, and a wild swingers club night that included a consent violation, staff intervention, and a serious conversation about safety and responsibility in lifestyle spaces.
And wrap up with a quick 2025 recap, 2026 goals, and why “approaching the unapproachable” (and being the ugliest one in the orgy) might be the new vibe.
In this Episode:
Getting rejected from a swingers club (and what photos clubs actually want)
MFM lessons & why home play can be harder than hotels
Condom fit issues & why your hoe bag needs options
Dressing down at clubs without killing the vibe
A consent violation and how quickly things escalated
What responsibility club owners have for creating safer spaces
2025 recap + 2026 goals and lifestyle plans
 
Useful Links from this Episode:
Club Eroxx Review (Belgium):https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-club-review/club-eroxx-review/
Join us in 2026 at a Swingers Eventhttps://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/ 
Wanderlust Swingers Website:https://wanderlustswingers.com/
Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content:https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events:https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
 
Sponsors
Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine 
Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26 
 
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Inside a Swingers Hotel Takeover: Real Couple Stories, Playroom Nerves & First Timer Tips

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories
EP210 – Inside a Swingers Hotel Takeover: Real Couple Stories, Playroom Nerves & First Timer Tips
What really happens inside a swingers hotel takeover?
In this episode, Cate sits down with multiple attendees from our recent Libertine Events takeover to share raw, funny, and deeply honest stories from inside a lifestyle weekend.
You’ll hear from brand-new swingers, long-term lifestyle couples, empty nesters, solo explorers, and couples still finding their dynamic — all discussing their playroom experiences, nerves, sexy wins, confidence breakthroughs, and what they wish they’d known before their first event.
Expect heartfelt conversations, hilarious confessions (including an accidental cock-block and a 12-hand massage), and genuinely useful advice for navigating hotel takeovers with confidence, clarity, and connection.
In this Episode:
Real-life swinger stories from a full hotel takeover
Relationship dynamics & long-term lifestyle journeys
Playrooms vs private rooms
Lingerie catwalk moments
Introverts in the lifestyle
Handling mismatched attraction & veto moments
Host vibes, accidental interruptions & how to speak up
Open-door hotel rooms
 
Useful Links from this Episode
Libertine Events – swingers hotel takeovers & parties: https://libertineevents.com/
Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/
Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & lingerie content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
Rob and Linz https://www.instagram.com/anything.but.vani11a/ 
Hot Couple Chronicles Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/0egGy8ukwpdUVfUAndCV2V 
Sponsors
Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine 
Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26 
 
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Londons Hottest Halloween Swingers Party – Le Boudoir Swingers Club London

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle StoriesEP209 – Londons Hottest Halloween Swingers Party – Le Boudoir Swingers Club London
What really happens inside a Halloween swingers party in central London? In this episode we share our two-night Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club. From Friday’s single-male night to Saturday’s couples-heavy chaos, plus a very hot dungeon “wine cellar” soft swap.
We talk club vibes, playroom etiquette, and the not-so-sexy realities (hello BV) that can kill the mood, along with practical tips for getting more out of your swinger club nights.
In this episode:
- Our Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club London, logistics, location, and first impressions.
- Friday single-male night vs Saturday’s more couples-heavy energy.
- Dungeon play: a sensual, soft-swap session in the catacombs and how we navigated boundaries.
- Why dress down rules and playroom etiquette matter more than most people think.
- Dealing with vibe-killers (like BV and fully clothed spectators) without shaming anyone.
- Swinger success tips: dressing down, mingling beyond your friend group, and following up on missed connections.
 
Watch the Le Boudoir YouTube Club Tour  https://youtu.be/2aRB5d64lPg?si=mtw9QtXS8k4m02x7
 
Useful Links from this EpisodeLibertine Events – Lifestyle takeovers & events: https://libertineevents.com/Patreon – See the Dress Down Lingerie Cate wore: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunderWanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
 
Sponsors
Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine 
Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26 
 
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Are Dirty Vanillas A Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic?

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle StoriesEP208 – Are Dirty Vanillas a Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic? (Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties)Bonus Episode: HotTakes with Wanderlust Swingers
Are “dirty vanillas” ruining swinger parties… or are we just old and grumpy?In this HotTakes bonus episode, we unpack the rise of sexy parties vs swinger parties — couples who love the lingerie, lights, drugs and dance floor, but have zero intention of swapping or playing. From empty playrooms at Dutch “takeovers” to US events that feel more MDMA than moaning, we ask: is this evolution, dilution, or just a different lane of fun?
Dirty Vanilla 101: what the term actually means (monogamous couples who love the vibe, flirting, lingerie, but don’t play) and why it’s often used as a slur in the lifestyle.
Marketing or Epidemic? Swinger events advertised as “dance parties” on TikTok/IG and “swinger parties” on dating sites – who’s actually to blame: the crowd, or the promoters?
Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties: Dutch club takeovers, 1200-person Amsterdam “swinger” events with no licensed playrooms, and the fetish / dirty vanilla / swinger mash-up that pleases no one.
Are we the problem? Cate & Darrell realise their expectations were stuck in “old school swinger” mode while the culture has shifted under their feet.
Listener Q – Tim: “We’re exclusive. Can we go to a swingers club just for the vibe?” Cate’s nuanced yes, Darrell’s “please do!” and why intention + contribution matters more than labels.
We wrap by asking the big question: are dirty vanillas a lifestyle epidemic… or is this just what evolution looks like in a more fluid, less-stigmatized, sex-positive world?
Check out the matching blog post for this episode, answering all your questions about Dirty Vanillas https://wanderlustswingers.com/swinger-education/dirty-vanilla-swingers/ 
 
Coming Up NextEP209 - Halloween weekend in London, MFMs, costumes, and chaos: stories from the playroom and beyond.
 
Useful Links from this EpisodeLibertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France): https://libertineevents.com/Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunderWanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
 
Sponsors
Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine 
Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26 
 
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